Figuring out what to do when you can’t sleep can be daunting, but there are solutions! Here’s how calm your mind and finally get some rest.
How To Relax So That You Can Sleep
Trying to get to sleep can be daunting from time to time. Overwhelming stress and everyday life make it hard to shut down when it’s time for bed. It is as if your brain is finally able to relax and all it wants to do is go over every minute detail from your day. It can be difficult to calm your mind.
In addition to stress, there are many reasons why you might struggle with sleepless nights. Whether your circadian rhythm is off because you work the night shift, you suffer from restless legs syndrome, sleep apnea, or other sleep disorders, or you have other medical conditions that contribute to chronic insomnia, you don’t have to continue to suffer.
If you find that you have racing thoughts when you lay down to sleep, you are not alone. Especially at this moment in history, there are many, many people who have the same issue.
There are many ways to develop good sleep hygiene, and other than consulting with your doctor and taking sleep medications, these suggestions should help.
Get Some Exercise
One of the things that you can do for your overall health is to get some exercise. Doing some moderate exercise and getting your heart rate up during the day can actually impact your quality of sleep at night.
According to Johns Hopkins, there is solid evidence that exercise during the day does help you fall asleep faster and improves sleep quality. Consider a daily routine (even for a very short time) where you increase your blood flow and get a little bit of exercise in. This will not only impact the hours of sleep you get, but it will also likely help with your stress levels.
Institute a Routine
One of the best ways to calm your mind is to start a nighttime routine for yourself. This can be anything that fits your lifestyle, but your goal is to get to four or five habits that you practice nightly so that your brain can learn that the last one is falling asleep.
Consider something like this: say good night to the children, pets, or loved ones and go brush your teeth. Watch a half-hour comedy (no social media!) while doing a relaxing activity with your hands (knitting, cards, a jigsaw puzzle, playing with a Pop-It toy), and then head to your bed. Drink some water, read a book for 15 minutes, and then lights out.
If you are like most people who have trouble calming down, you need to build in time to decompress. To be by yourself without the influences of everyday life. If you can help to focus your brain elsewhere and routinely, you’ll find it much easier to calm your mind.
Shut off the Phone
You may not realize it, but the blue light coming from your phone, computer, and television is helping to create your sleep problems. Even if you turn down the bright lights and sound, your electronic devices will impact the quality of your sleep.
There is scientific evidence that shows that when the sun has gone down and our brain can detect the continued use of blue light emitted from our devices, our bodies don’t release enough melatonin. This makes it much more difficult for your brain to wind down so that you can get a good night’s sleep.
As a result of not being able to sleep, one likely gets back on their phone to distract themselves as the hours tick by. This ultimately turns into a vicious cycle. If you can’t sleep, the worst thing you can do for yourself is to get back on your electronics.
Listen to Your Breathing
Breathing is not always about doing breathing exercises, it can also be about paying attention to how you breathe. When you get stressed, your breathing can speed up or slow down, which will hinder your ability to calm your mind.
Throughout each day, if you happen to catch yourself in a stressful moment, try to stop and listen. Listen to the sounds around you for a second. Focus on how your breathing sounds as you breathe in and out. Try to push out the world around you and keep your mind from focusing on anything other than your breath sounds.
Once you become familiar with how you sound when you are stressed vs. how you sound when you have calmed down, you can try to replicate what you’ve heard during bedtime. When you lay down to sleep, listen to your breathing. Much like counting sheep, this is a great way to get yourself focused out of your head and onto something soothing.
*Note – Don’t discount deep breathing! When you are stressed and overwhelmed, taking some deep breaths is a great practice to help center yourself. It won’t hurt you to do this at night as well.
Sometimes the best thing that we can do to help ourselves calm down is to reframe the day. Get a journal and write down one thing that you are grateful for every night before you get into bed.
Each day can be incredibly stressful, but there has to be a silver lining. If you can find that lining regularly, you’ll find that the way you look at each day is a little different. You’ll find yourself beginning to see the positives in the little things, which is something we all need if we’re trying to get to a calm enough place to sleep at night.
You don’t need to limit yourself to only one item each day, so allow it to flow. If you have only one, that’s fine; the next day you might have a lot of things.
If it was a particularly wonderful day, list everything you can think of so that you can look back and find some peace in the memories. Laying in bed and focusing on the positives is a lot more productive towards a healthy night’s sleep than focusing on the stress.
Drink Tea or Hot Milk
You may know that caffeine consumption in the evening (think energy drinks or coffee) will lead to a lack of sleep, but there are actually beverages that can help you.
Many herbal tea options encourage restful sleep. Sleepy Time Tea is a popular brand of bedtime tea that is said to help calm your mind and soothe your body so that you can get better sleep. In addition, any tea that has chamomile or lavender in it may help relax your entire body and mind to get a good night’s sleep. Just make sure that your choice doesn’t have caffeine in it.
If you aren’t a fan of tea, try hot milk instead. A warm beverage before bed may be soothing to you and allow you to calm yourself.
I know what you are thinking – do these really work or is it some kind of placebo? The truth is, the tea or milk may or may not help you relax and help calm your mind, but the process of making and drinking the tea or the milk can. When you put your focus on doing something soothing, your mind may follow, whether it planned to or not. And other than the possibility of needing to wake up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom, it’s not going to hurt.
Create The Right Environment
If you are going to do anything well, you have to have the right tools. If you are having a tough time calming your mind so that you can get to sleep, see what you can do to help yourself. Does white noise help? Try running a white noise machine or a floor fan through the night, or play some quiet music. Are your sheets a little too scratchy? Invest in a new set of softer sheets that meet your needs better (think sateen, flannel, or high thread-count cotton).
If your room is not dark enough, invest in an eye mask or blackout curtains. If your body feels sore, try taking a warm bath with essential oils and do some progressive muscle relaxation. If you don’t have a comfortable mattress, consider investing in a new one.
Create a space where the primary focus is getting some rest and escaping from the stress of the world and daily life. You cannot force sleep, but you can invite in better sleep.
Attempt Sleep Hypnosis
Whether you opt for a sleep hypnosis app or a meditation app, there are many free apps on both Android and Apple phones that will help calm your mind when you’re having sleep issues. The trick is to try a bunch. Eventually, you will find the right one for you.
Your goal when looking for the right app is to find one that speaks to you. You like the speaker’s voice, the music puts you at ease, and the process helps you relax your mind. It may feel a little strange, but give it a chance.
Listen to the app right before bed or make it part of your daily ritual during a time that works best for you. Anything that allows you to calm yourself at all during the day will allow you to relax a little more at night as well.
With everything happening in the world right now, it is no wonder that many of us are facing sleepless or restless nights. Sleep affects our mental health and our physical health, so it is extremely important.
There are things that you can do though, and you owe it to your sense of well-being to try to do what you can for yourself. You can’t help anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first, so do yourself a favor and try to get some rest.